A wise young man said to me not too long ago "its a conscious decision we make to love someone, to wake up every morning and decide to love that day." if he read this he would gloat endlessly to this admission. A part of me wants to put this to the test. My typical morning starts with me grudgingly getting out of bed but quickly pulling myself outta it and thanking God for the day that He has made that i will rejoice in. This i do everyday and the rest of the day flies by many times without the rejoicing i promise to do

i feel like i'm stuck in a rant, a continuous spell of monotony that i need to break and this i keep promising myself to do every single day but....

This blog post today is a form of release. I woke up happy and it slowly faded. My road rage quickly shifted from 10 to 100 in seconds but i am making a conscious decision to have a good day, to let things that would ordinarily ruffle my feathers slide and to fight off any stress induced migraines...do i hear an amen?

Rugaju you would be proud

Today i make a conscious decision to celebrate life, to take a minute and breathe, to appreciate those that have one way or another
made a difference in my life, have made me smile, have wiped my tears when i cry or merely been that silent being besides me when
calm is all that i require. I also thank those that have shown me the other side to life , that have been my realization of the mere
mortal that i am. Those that have brought me pain and helped me shed my naivety. Today i celebrate life and those that make mine
meaningful

LOGIC DEFYING PHENOMENON

From time in memorial human beings have tried to crack the code, the key to understanding the undeniable differences between the male and female species but all efforts have been rendered futile. In comes the self proclaimed relationship experts turned best selling authors, i cant help but chuckle. It always gets me thinking,these that we call experts, have they cracked this code, have they seen whats behind door 1,2,3..... and if so does it translate directly into their lives? Do they have all this figured out? the cynic in me says "definitely not". Just another ploy to capitalize on peoples vulnerabilities and dish out advice that they know people want to hear. The irony however is the fact (or subjective observation) that its the women more than their male counterparts that are tirelessly trying to understand men and how they operate and have turned these self help books into manuals of sorts that possess biblical truth. The men on the other hand seem to have made peace with the seeming reality that women are a complex piece of art and that you take them as they come. The different shades of the rainbow have nothing on them. They blow hot and cold blue yellow and red. I refuse to say we because to say so is to admit to this fallacy. I came across one of these "best sellers" and the author had a certain humor and biting "matter of fact" approach that kept me glued. Towards the end of the book was a Q n A segment where women from across the world were bearing their souls wondering why their men are not ready to settle or whether men when married prefer new sex to sex with their marital partners(quoting verbatim) and one asked why this guy she was seeing suddenly stopped calling and texting. The one thing i found interesting was the authors response to the latter. He said wen it comes to men once they are done they are done. Unlike women who need closure men move on. He clarified that we women shoudn't assume that they don't hurt cos they indeed do but that once they are done they heal by moving on to someone else. Kinda validates the theory that the fastest way to get over someone is to get under another. So i pause a question, should we continue to pursue this unending quest to decode human behavior or simply admit that women and men are wired differently, take it as it comes and live in a bubble .Disclaimer right here: I don't consider myself complex but a work in progress and how then will you try to read me as a complete piece...do tell