LOGIC DEFYING PHENOMENON

From time in memorial human beings have tried to crack the code, the key to understanding the undeniable differences between the male and female species but all efforts have been rendered futile. In comes the self proclaimed relationship experts turned best selling authors, i cant help but chuckle. It always gets me thinking,these that we call experts, have they cracked this code, have they seen whats behind door 1,2,3..... and if so does it translate directly into their lives? Do they have all this figured out? the cynic in me says "definitely not". Just another ploy to capitalize on peoples vulnerabilities and dish out advice that they know people want to hear. The irony however is the fact (or subjective observation) that its the women more than their male counterparts that are tirelessly trying to understand men and how they operate and have turned these self help books into manuals of sorts that possess biblical truth. The men on the other hand seem to have made peace with the seeming reality that women are a complex piece of art and that you take them as they come. The different shades of the rainbow have nothing on them. They blow hot and cold blue yellow and red. I refuse to say we because to say so is to admit to this fallacy. I came across one of these "best sellers" and the author had a certain humor and biting "matter of fact" approach that kept me glued. Towards the end of the book was a Q n A segment where women from across the world were bearing their souls wondering why their men are not ready to settle or whether men when married prefer new sex to sex with their marital partners(quoting verbatim) and one asked why this guy she was seeing suddenly stopped calling and texting. The one thing i found interesting was the authors response to the latter. He said wen it comes to men once they are done they are done. Unlike women who need closure men move on. He clarified that we women shoudn't assume that they don't hurt cos they indeed do but that once they are done they heal by moving on to someone else. Kinda validates the theory that the fastest way to get over someone is to get under another. So i pause a question, should we continue to pursue this unending quest to decode human behavior or simply admit that women and men are wired differently, take it as it comes and live in a bubble .Disclaimer right here: I don't consider myself complex but a work in progress and how then will you try to read me as a complete piece...do tell